So today I want to talk about something that has nothing to do with fashion or being plus size, but more so about being a career mom. So just in case you don’t know, I am the proud step-mom to an amazing 11-year spunky little girl. Her name is Persiphone, Persi for short, and yes she is as unique of a character as is the spelling of her name. She is also passionate and loving; we both cherish each other. So in other words she is more the just my “step” daughter; she is my baby, the child God placed into my life to change my view on the world.
Last month was Persi’s graduation from elementary school, and like most modern day families, both hubby and I attended as well as Persi’s mom. Originally, my intention was to take the entire day off from work, you know, elementary school graduations don’t happen every day. Unfortunately, I needed to schedule a very important work meeting with someone who was only available that day at noon. At first I didn’t think anything of it. I guess I placed myself in an inferior position to her birth parents and just assumed that since they were taking her out it was OK for me to continue on to work. However, as the graduation came to an end and I stared at my watch, I couldn’t help but shake that sinking feeling that I had turned into “that parent”. You know, the parent that is never there, is always traveling and only sees their child at night. While I do know that I am far from being “that parent” the reality is that it isn’t easy balancing a career, a blog, a husband, and motherhood, and it is instances like this that leave me feeling like the scale is leaning in the wrong direction. As I walked away from the school to the subway station, I couldn’t help but fight the tears and the feeling of failure in my heart.
Now this post is not meant to be a self-imposed pity party, but more of an opportunity to shed light on the struggle that it is to be a mom in this modern day world. How do we balance it all without sacrificing parts of the sum? How do we excel and still take part in all the important events? And how do our children, so brave and resilient, cope and deal with parents who are always on a schedule?
I can’t say that I have all the answers, or even something witty or insightful to share, but I will say that everyday women, whether plus or not, from New York to Texas, white or Hispanic, women from all walks of life are challenged with the same balancing act. We are expected to be strong, but not bitchy, loving, but not weak. We are expected to be there for the husband, the child, the job and everyone else but yourself. And in the end, do it all with a smile. So while I still haven’t figured out all the ins and outs of this balancing act, I did want to take a moment to tip my hat to you, the working career woman of today.
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