If you follow me on Instagram then by now you now that I'm engaged!! Yes, he asked and I said yes. Don't worry, soon enough we will share with you the story of how we met and of our engagement but for now lets get to the fun part … wedding dresses!! In full disclaimer this is not my first time at the alter and one day I will share with you the hard lessons I learned in my fist marriage but for now we will leave that in the past and focus on the future.
So back to wedding dresses! Over the next few months I will be sharing with you my ups and downs of this journey. I will admit, this is the part about wedding planning that I wasn't looking forward to. From everyone having an opinion on what you should and shouldn't wear to the limited styles and samples available to plus size brides, finding the perfect dress is just as hard as finding the perfect man. Well ladies, today we are not going to focus on those things. Today, I want to share with you some of the things that I learned about wedding dress shopping in the hopes that it might make your experience easier and pleasurable.
Tip 1: It is just a dress
Ladies, I know you don't want to hear it and yes the wedding dress industry wants you to think otherwise but the reality is that it is just a dress. Yes, it should be special and you should feel amazing in it but the perfect dress doesn't mean you will have the perfect wedding or the perfect marriage. Keep things into prospective when shopping. The more pressure you put on yourself to find the perfect dress the less you are going to enjoy the process. Trust me, just like your fiance, the perfect dress will appear when you least expect it.
Tip 2: You don't need to bring a parade
I know that everyone wants the experience of going wedding dress shopping with a crew but honestly the more people you bring the more opinions, comments and attitudes to deal with. Yes, it is ok to go alone or with one or two people. Also, if your mom or friends don't leave near you remember that FaceTime and Skype are amazing tools. As you can see from my picture I had my mom on FaceTime as a trip to NYC was just not in the cards. Lastly remember to pick wisely on who you ask to go with you shopping. Make sure you are inviting people who are positive and supportive. Leave the negative Nelly home.
Tip 3: How much you spend or don't is up to you (and maybe your partner) no one else
Ladies, budget is a big topic of conversation when planning a wedding and yes that dress budget is a part of it. However, it is very easy to get swayed, confusion or convinced to go over target while shopping with friends, family or persuaded by pushy sales people. When shopping, start off with a number that is 20% less then your actual budget. This will give you a little wiggle room while shopping because you know you will fall in love with the most expensive option in the store. Also, don't blow your entire wedding budget on your dress. Remember tip number 1- yes, it's just a dress and it is just one day. Thankfully there are great options in all price points today for the plus size bride.
Tip 4: Experiment with new styles
This is your ultimate time to play dress up so have fun with it! You might have an ideal style in mind but go ahead and try them all, you might actually fall in love with something you didn't expect.
Tip 5: Stay true to you!
My beautiful bride to be, this moment is yours. It can be very easy to get caught up in the moment and loose track of what you really want. If you've always dreamed of a ball gown then go for it. If the idea of a big poofy dress gives you hives then don't let yourself be swayed and stick to your style and the dresses you love.
Bonus tip: Have fun!
Yes, weddings are stressful but try to make the most out of this once (hopefully) in a lifetime moment. Enjoy the company, live in the moment and in the end know that you will be the most stunning bride ever, no matter what dress you pick.